Wisdom has hidden strengths.

“You have to know that in life some things you can fix and some things you cannot, but you need the wisdom to know the difference”

This is only a tiny segment of a very long story so in short please take the wisdom of an old man who has seen and done things in life that hopefully many of you will never have to deal with and that even includes my own death on 21st January 2019 and was rescued by wonderful people, so make sure to understand people properly and do not pre-judge anyone and accept they may not always agree with your point of view as it could be that you or even both of you could be wrong or right and in the end none of it matters.

Wisdom comes to us over time, and some of us get it, while others never do because they do not learn the lessons of life, especially those who think they are an island.

Some think they are more intelligent than others, yet we are all equal, and it is only the lessons of life that can really teach us anything worthwhile, and assuming anything without wisdom will always place you in a predicament that you will find it hard to get away from or even compromise with.    

As we head into 2026, I reflect a little on myself and my life, and I conclude that I am a pleased and contented person at this time in my life, and I wonder how many of you can say that? 

I have travelled the world and travelled to live in many parts of England during my lifetime, I have lived and worked with people in Wiltshire, Hampshire, Northamptonshire, Leicestershire, Derbyshire, Humberside, Yorkshire, and even Scotland, finding that we are basically the same no matter where we live and work.

I have dealt with people who died in my hands at the road side. Even one who committed suicide just because he assumed that another person should have loved him, some who I spoke to afterwards said that she had caused his death. Still, the truth is that it was his false assumption that actually caused him to do what he did, and I have to say Andrew Bowen you will remain a fond memory to me always and I am just sorry I was not there to prevent you doing what you did.

Since that awful event and many years later I lost a  daughter during her birth and later a wonderful friend and wife to cancer  plus one of my sons died with a drug overdose.

Personally, I have had two heart attacks and a stroke, then I lost my eyesight due to both my eyes filling with blood and destroying both retinas, leaving me completely blind.

Through it all, I continue with a smile on my face and joy in my heart, but I bury my memories and anguish deep in my soul, ensuring they do not interfere with my life as it continues.

I have found that family connections are complicated and often tedious, as they assume and expect far too much from others.

They decide not to invite you to family events without telling you that they have a bag on about something, but quite honestly, they have a deep problem within themselves, and I feel sorry for them.

I have found people who were potentially great friends, but later realised this was just a lamination over not very nice people, in fact, and so we learn not to become angry about such people.  Moreover, we feel sad that they are not happy with themselves.

I have seen these people in all walks of life, and often they try to befriend you to gain something, and they are obviously not true friends. So the moral guideline is never to make assumptions, and you will never be disappointed with anyone or anything.

Even with your own flesh and blood, we are individuals, and it is safer never to assume anything; that way, you will always avoid arguments and controversy. Remember, we cannot choose our families—they happen —but we can choose who we accept as friends.

Please give love and understanding to everyone, no matter who it is, because you will never know what is happening in their lives, whether it be mentally or physically, remembering that not all disabilities are visible, and anguish is often hidden.

“PEACE LOVE, AND GOOD WILL TO EVERYONE ALL OVER THE WORLD”